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Join date: Dec 12, 2023

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Lucie Rust is a systemic psychotherapist who has spent years working with couples and families. In her work she combines evidence-based approaches from systemic therapy, attachment research, and modern couples therapy with a strong focus on curiosity, emotional safety, and practical relational experiments.

Lucie believes that most relationship struggles are not caused by “difficult people” but by patterns that develop between two partners over time. Her work helps couples recognize those patterns, slow them down, and create new ways of connecting that feel more honest, supportive, and alive.

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Lucie Rust

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Jun 11, 2026 ∙ 4 min

When Is It Time for Couples Therapy? 7 Signs You Should Not Ignore

The average couple reportedly waits six years from the moment they first name a problem in their relationship before seeking therapy. Six years. When you first hear that number, it can sound exaggerated. But once you sit with couples in practice and listen to what brings them in, it becomes painfully clear why it is true. This statistic comes from the research of John Gottman, one of the most influential psychologists of the 20th century in the field of couple relationships. Many other...

Jun 11, 2026 ∙ 6 min

Most of what we call self-care is just better-decorated escape

On the difference between leaving and returning — and why long-term love depends on knowing which one you're doing. There is a distinction I have been carrying for some time now, both clinically and personally, that I think matters more than almost any other in modern intimate life. It is the distinction between escape and return. They can look identical from the outside. A woman closes her laptop at six on a Friday, puts on running shoes, and leaves the house alone for an hour. A man takes...

Jun 11, 2026 ∙ 5 min

The word "fine" should worry you more than fighting does

On the quietest way a relationship goes missing. There is a sentence I hear in my consulting room more often than any other, and it never arrives as a complaint. It arrives as a kind of confused report. We were fine. We didn’t fight. We were just... fine. The couple saying it usually looks at each other when they get to the word, as if checking. As if hoping the other one will offer a different word and lift them out of it. They never do. They both reach for fine because fine is what they...